Can You Really Quit Meth/cocaine On Your Own?

I AM A RECOVERING ADDICT MYSELF. I HAD BEEN ON DRUGS SINCE I WAS THIRTEEN YEARS OLD. YOU NAME IT I DID IT EXCEPT HEROIN. MOSTLY COCAINE TO I WAS 18 THEN WENT TO METH UNTIL ABOUT TWO YEARS AGO. I QUIT ON MY OWN BUT IT WAS HARD. I DID IT FOR MYSELF AND MY TWO CHILDREN. I MADE THE CHOICE AND THE KEY WAS THAT I WANTED TO CHANGE. I HAD TO CHANGE MY LIFESTYLE,MY ENVIRONMENT, AND MY FRIENDS.I'LL GIVE HIM ONE MORE CHANCE, BUT I WOULD BE ON HIM LIKE WHITE ON RICE MAKING SURE HE IS TAKING CARE OF BUSINESS. ITS NOT ONLY YOU AND HIM AT STAKE HERE ITS INVOLVES WHAT SHOULD MATTER THE MOST YOUR CHILDREN'S WELFARE. WHEN HE STARTS TO PUT THAT AT STAKE AGAIN AND WHERE YOU KNOW THAT HE UP TO NO GOOD AGAIN ITS TIME TO HIT THE ROAD. LET HIM DO IT ON HIS OWN IF HE CHANGE GOOD FOR HIM IF NOT THEN ITS NOT WORTH PUTTING YOUR KIDS AND YOURSELF THROUGH HELL FOR SOMEONE WHO DOESNT WANT TO HELP HIMSELF HE IS JUST BEING PLAIN SELFISH NOW.

I have a good friend who has not had any crack cocaine for 1 yr.  She did it on her own.  No drug rehab, no Narcotics Anonymous, just set her mind to it.  So can you.  But your life will be severely crippled until you do give it up completely.

THE CHALLENGE
We don’t know how to meet it. Either we avoid it, or we don’t know how to meet it, or we are indifferent. We have become so callous. All these things, all three are involved in not facing the crisis because I am frightened. One is frightened. One says, ‘My lord! I don’t know how to deal with it.’ So one goes off to an analyst, or to a priest, or picks up a book to see how it can be translated. He becomes irresponsible.  There are so many ways to avoid clever, cunning, superficial and very subtle. All that is involved in avoiding an issue. So what we are trying to say, isn’t it, the observer is the past. The observer is trying to translate and act according to the past when the crisis arises. The crisis is always new. Otherwise it’s not a crisis. A challenge must be new, is new, and always new. But he translates it according to the past. Now, can he look at that challenge, that crisis, without the response of the past. So through negation that thing which alone is the positive comes into being.  May I put it this way? I must negate, I mean negate not intellectually or verbally, actually negate the society in which I live. The implication of immorality which exists in society, on which society is built, I must negate totally that immorality. That means that I live morally. In negating that the positive is the moral. I don’t know if I am.? So through negation, I mean actual negation, not just ideal negation, through actual negation of that which is immoral, morality comes into being.  When we use the word ‘negate’, as it is generally understood, it is an act of violence. I brush it aside. And we are using the word ‘negate’ not in the violent sense, but the understanding of what drugs implies let's take for example. The understanding of what drugs implies. The ‘me’, who is separate from you, wanting or desiring a substance which will create the illusion to put me in a position of authority, power, prestige. So I am, in negating the substance, I am negating my desire to be powerful which I negate only when I have understood the whole process which is involved in achieving a stimulant. In that is employed ruthlessness, lack of love, lack of immense consideration for others, lack of a sense of conformity, imitation, acceptance of the social structure, all that is involved and the understanding of all that when I negate drugs. It is not an act of violence. On the contrary, it is an act of tremendous attention. So I’ve negated myself.  And therefore I am negating violence which comes about when there is separation. It is not self denial. Self-denial means sacrifice, pain, lack of understanding. If I see something clearly, the action is immediate. So, to negate implies diligence. The word called diligence means giving complete attention to the fact of drugs – we are taking that word for example. Giving my whole attention to drugs, in that attention, the whole map of drugs is revealed. With all the things involved in it and it is only then the seeing is the doing. Then it is finished. And the mind can never revert to success and therefore become bitter and all the things that follow.  Once this happens, there is no reversion. It is finished.  It’s not something that one has to keep up.  We don’t feel responsible. We don’t feel we are responsible because the people in position, in authority politically, religiously are responsible. We are not. That is the general feeling that is all over the world. And scientists, politicians, the educational people, the religious people, they are responsible, but I know nothing about it, I just follow. That’s the general attitude right through the world.  Because those over there have been delegated to do a job by me.  One feels he gets off scot-free that way because its the other one’s fault.  So, I make myself irresponsible. By delegating a responsibility to you I become irresponsible. Whereas now we are saying, nobody is responsible except you, because you are the world and the world is you. You have created this mess. You alone can bring about clarity, and therefore you are totally, utterly, completely responsible. And nobody else. Now, that means you have to be a light to yourself, not the light of a professor, or an analyst, or a psychologist, or the light of Jesus, or the light of the Buddha. You have to be a light to yourself in a world that is utterly becoming dark. That means you have to be responsible. Now, what does that word mean? It means really, to respond totally, adequately to every challenge. You cannot possibly respond adequately if you are rooted in the past, because the challenge is new, otherwise it is not a challenge. A crisis is new, otherwise it is not a crisis. If I respond to a crisis in terms of a preconceived plan, which the Communists are doing, or the Catholics, or the Protestants and so on and so on, then they are not responding totally and adequately to the challenge.  I must have total commitment to the challenge. Responding adequately, completely to a crisis. That is, the word ‘responsibility’ means that, to respond. I cannot respond completely if I am frightened. Or I cannot respond completely if I am seeking pleasure. I cannot respond totally if my action is routine, is repetitive, is traditional, is conditioned. So, to respond adequately to a challenge means that the ‘me’, which is the past, must end.

I did.Get away from the people you use with if they use you can't hang out... You have to retrain your thinking too.When you think of using you think about why your trying to kill yourself age yourself faster,you think about your children w/out a parent if you have children,think about the peoples feelings your hurting because you force them to watch you tourture yourself and they love you.your hurting others too not just yourself.WHAT GIVES YOU THE RIGHT TO DILIBRATLY HURT PEOPLE THAT CARE FOR YOU. SELFISH wake up sleeper.

I did meth heroin, cocaine, weed, alcohol, pcp, and more pain pills the I  can't count for five years straight.....I am a I.v. User.....as of now I am sober for 3 months and I did it on my own

I would like to ask this. Is there decision at all? Decision implies choice.  Choice implies a mind that’s confused between this and that.  But a mind that sees clearly has no choice. It doesn’t decide. It acts.  We think we are free because we choose. We can choose, right?  Is a mind free that is capable of choice? Or is a mind that is not free, that chooses? Because choice implies between this and that. Obviously. Now which means the mind doesn’t see clearly and therefore there is choice. The choice exists when there is confusion. A mind that sees clearly, there is no choice. It is doing. I think this is where we have got into rather trouble when we say we are free to choose. Choice implies freedom. I say on the contrary: Choice implies a mind that is confused, and therefore not free.
There is a very definite distinction between responsible for and being responsible. Being responsible for implies a direction, a directed will. But the feeling of responsibility implies responsibility for everything, not in a direction, in any one particular direction. Responsible for education, responsible for politics, responsible the way I live, to be responsible for my behaviour. It’s a total feeling of complete responsibility which is the ground in which action takes place.  That means, the feeling of responsibility expresses itself politically, religiously, educationally, in business, in the whole of life, responsible for the total behaviour, not in a particular direction. I think there is great deal of difference when I say, when one says, I am responsible for my action. That means you are responsible for your action according to the idea that you have preconceived about action.  If one has this total feeling of responsibility then what is your responsibility with regard to your children? It means education. Are you educating them to bring about a mind that conforms to the pattern which the society has established? Which means you accept the immorality of the society that is. If you feel totally responsible you are responsible from the moment it’s born till the moment it dies. The right kind of education, not the education of making the child conform, the worship of success and the division of nationalities which brings about war – you follow? – all that you are responsible for, not just in a particular direction. Even if you are in a particular direction, I'm responsible for my act, what is your action based on? How can you be responsible, when you, when your action is the result of a formula that has been handed down to you?  Otherwise you have to, you have to have an astonishingly active, clear brain, not befuddled, not puzzled, not bewildered. You must have a mind that thinks clearly. And you cannot think clearly if you are rooted in the past. You are merely continuing, modified perhaps, through the present to the future.  What is the responsibility in human relationship?

It's a tough question. I'm a recovering addict and have to say quitting on your own can be done but the damage done to your relationship will be even harder to repair. One thing I can offer as far as advice is order some home meth urine test kits. You can get them on Amazon for like $3 a piece. My boyfriend still tests me when he's feeling uneasy. If your husband is really dedicated to making this work with you he'll fight for it and should be as willing as I was to submit to home testing. Do watch him pee in the cup and handle the test yourself. It's not the most fun thing to go through but as uncomfortable as it is the peace of mind it gives my boyfriend is priceless. It has also kept me on the straight and narrow knowing that he could test me on a whim. Lying goes with meth, it's like taking a lying potion. He may relapse once or twice but understand, it really is so hard and as long as it's only a couple of times and not three weeks straight multiple times then cut him some slack. The cravings hit hard and can blindside even the strongest willed people. Hope this helps.

I think, you can't quit meth ever. It will always hunt you doesn't matter time went ... There is no chance. I stopped using it 4 years ago, was deported from the States because of it but still find it so hard, nobody really understands me. In my country where I live no, there is no meth, I still can't sleep, see it every now and then in my dreams and feel really uncomfortable without it. Can't change this.

I did meth for 8 months.. I slept maybe seven weeks out of that eight months.
Then my supplier went to prison..so I sobered up...I had other ways to get it, but the support of my boyfriend telling me I didnt need it and helping me keep my mind elsewhere helped me stay clean. Its been 16 months. So yes you can do it on your own but believe me it was the hardest thing I have ever done the feeling of euphoria is addictive. And the weight loss A DREAM. But you can't have a life or relationships on meth because it controls you. If he is serious he can quit but the stressful times are when hes going to want to run to it...

The only problem with testing is that it is only in the urine for 2-3 days~ I dated a guy that used everything or anything he could get his hands on... Was kicked out of the halfway house at his rehab, used since he was 13 or so. Claimed to be clean over and over but then would show signs of using again. I will love him forever and wish there was some way he could be clean but, I really don't see it happening. He is now 37, living with his mom but, he has a good paying job and can't afford a house, apartment or anywhere to live on his own? HMMM...makes you wonder where his money is going.